Everyone seems to be easily offended these days. But instead of resorting to violence or always giving in, we can communicate our displeasure professionally. Check TikTok video to learn more!
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Before Saying Anything, Control Your Emotions
It may be easier said than done, but this is a very important step. Confronting the perpetrator while hot-headed will most definitely trigger a defensive response. Take a deep breath, set your intent to state your displeasure professionally, and then confront.
Next, here’s how you can structure what to say:
What You’re Offended
By Be objective and specific. Sometimes people don’t know what they’ve done wrong. Being specific also lets the perpetrator know that it may not be the entire conversation that’s offensive, just certain parts of it. Be clear in the Ws – When, Where, What, to/at Whom it was directed to.
For example:
“Hi. Just now, you mentioned casually to my friend that…”
Why You’re Unhappy
In a firm and rational manner, explain why that action or speech offended you. This is when the perpetrator might get defensive, so no matter how angry you are, refrain from any name-calling, insults, or expletives to avoid unwanted escalation. You want to set things right, not start a fight.
For example:
“I think it’s not a nice thing to say to her because she is very affected by it. So affected that she is now…”
Best Course to Rectify
Before things escalate to an argument about something that happened in the past, shift the focus onto the future course of action. Something reasonable, achievable, and meaningful would help. Taking into account the other party’s ego, likelihood to understand, and existing relationship, a reasonable rectification can be a simple apology or an agreement to not commit the same act again.
For example:
“I’d appreciate it if you could just apologize to her.”
At the end of the day, the ball is in the perpetrator’s court now. It’s up to him/her to appreciate your point of view and want to make things right, or maybe take the chance to explain any misunderstandings. Whatever it is, it’s far better than resorting to violence straightaway, and the world can be a more peaceful place.
Remember, effective communication is key to resolving conflicts in a constructive way. If you’re interested in learning more about building better relationships and improving communication skills, check out related posts from Spio.sg!
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