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Eyes Communicate Too!

Have you ever felt super frustrated having to speak to someone but he/she just cannot connect to what you are saying?

Well, it might be because you aren’t speaking in their “thinking style”.
Specifically, the VAK (Visual, Auditory or Kinaesthetic style of thinking.

And here’s a simple trick to figuring out how a person really processes the information he/she gets:

Look at their eyes!

If they tend to look up UP while thinking, they are most likely Visualising concepts, images or playing out scenarios in the air.

Use phrases like “Can you see…”, “Imagine”, “Picture this…” or simply being more descriptive to help them visualise your ideas better.

Eyes looking sideways - Auditory
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If they tend to look Sideways, or even tilt their head while thinking / listening to you, they are most likely trying to Hear you better, or recall what has been said or what they have heard previously.

Use phrases like “Hear me out”, “It sounds like…” and being more deliberate in repeating certain phrases, using soundbites or simply, speaking slower. This will help them process your information and understand you better.

Eyes looking down - Kinaesthetic
Image by 坤 张 from Pixabay

Finally, if they tend to look Downwards, these are the emotional people. They are most likely trying to figure out how they Feel (or maybe even talking internally to themselves).

And how do we communicate better with them? Use words like “I feel that”, “You’d be happy to know that “, “My experience is that…”. Using more sensory words to guide their feelings help too. The beautiful thing about communicating with Kinaestethic people is – you’re most likely able to foster a deeper connection with them.

So the next time, do observe your partner’s eyes more when you are speaking to them. You’d be able to find out some traits about them that they may not even be aware of!

Of course, if you’d like to find out more about yourself, a do check out the IEQ9 Personality Tests that we offer.

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Ditch The Phrase “I’m Not Nervous!”

The first post was about controlling nervousness with one simple trick.

Now, let’s also talk about one common mistake we always make to combat nervousness – tell ourselves we are not.

Ditch this phrase!

As in the video, when you were told to NOT think about a hot pink unicorn, could you?

Most likely, you’d be thinking about the unicorn first, then try to cancel it out!

Why? Because our mind can’t “unthink” something.

So, when you say phrases like “I’m not nervous”, you are actually reinforcing the nervousness first, before trying to cancel it out.

So, Ditch the Phrase!
It’s making things worse!

So, next time, instead of saying “I’m not nervous”, go with positive reinforcements like

“I’m Confident.”
“I’m going to Ace it!”
“It’s going to be Cool.”

Ditch the Phrase "I'm not nervous!" and feel confident

You’re going to feel so much better!

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Control Nervousness with This Simple Trick

Getting on to do something really important but feeling the nervousness?

Increased heartbeat? Cold sweat? Legs shaking?
It’s perfectly normal. 🙂

All these are just symptoms.
And you know what else has similar symptoms?

Excitement
Anticipation
Adrenaline

So, while the symptoms are the same, all you have to do is to

Change the Diagnosis.

It’s a simple mind hack to control nervousness and help you feel so much better and get positively psyched up for your next engagement.

Control nervousness and by re-diagnosing symptoms

Of course, if you want more customised diagnosis of your fears, do consider our Personality Reports or Coaching Sessions. 🙂

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3 Tips for More Professional Zoom Meetings

Conducting Zoom meetings often?
Want to give yourself the more professional look?

These 3 simple tips will help!

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1. Place your camera at Eye Level

Especially if you have a small laptop, your built-in webcam will usually point upwards during video calls.

You wouldn’t want your fellow meeting attendees to be constantly scrutinizing what you have in your nostrils or.. how many chins you have, right?

Use a few old boxes / books to prop up your laptop so that it’s at eye level.

It’s much better for posture too!

2. Soft frontal light makes a lot of difference

Your existing desk lamp should work fine. Just make sure it’s keeping your face lit.

Feeling the glare? Oily face problems?
Throw a white cloth or plastic bag over will help!

3. Neat = Professional

A clean background reeks professionalism.
(Also screams “I’m a responsible person!” even though the mess is outside what’s captured by the webcam)

Hope these 3 tips help!

If you liked these, and want to learn how to stand out more in your next online meeting, do check out our Commanding Attention in an Online Session course for our next dates.

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